After a
certain age, every single girl who has the intention of getting married will begin to look out for a suitor.
Unfortunately many who thought that beauty, academic qualifications, family
background and status in the society will make this journey a safe sail for
them has been greatly disappointed.
Every endeavor
in life is guided by rules and regulations and marriage is not left out.
Certain things if not done properly will make getting married a herculean task
but if you want to have a smooth journey in your quest to getting married take
these tips in consideration.
Transferring Your Needs and That of Your
Family to Him
The dream
of every girl is to have a well-to-do man who will take care of her and
probably her family as a husband. This
is fine but then, choking a man who is not yet your husband with your
responsibilities will definitely work against your relationship with him.
He sees it
as a clear signal that he is in for trouble and he will find a way of getting
out. Even though you need his help in
your family, wait until you are married to him.
Do not
allow your fiancé regret why he even asked you out in the first place rather
work hard on your own to show him that you are capable of taking care of your
responsibilities and he will know that you do not love him because of his
money.
Cohabiting With Him
Some girls
are so funny that they think they are smart.
They will stylishly leave their clothes and shoes in their fiancé’s
house. Then they start spending weekends,
days and weeks in the man’s house.
Before you know it they start cohabiting with a man who barely knows
their families.
Let me ask
you, if you are in that man’s shoes, will you struggle to buy something that is
already delivered to you. See! The man
will know in his heart that you are desperate and will run as fast as his legs
can carry him.
Make
yourself a scarce commodity and let the man struggle to have you in his
house. Marriage is ordained by God and not won by the highest bidder.
If a man is your God’s chosen husband, he will definitely look out for
you.
Cooking & Doing His Laundry
These
duties are exclusively reserved for wives and children of a man but when you
start acting like a wife when the man has not decided who will be his wife, you
are not being fair to yourself.
You may be
doing these things to impress a man, some will go as far as using their own money
to cook for the man but from experience 98% of men view these acts as trap and
will do all they can to avoid you.
If he
needs to eat foods cooked by a woman in the house and his clothes cleaned and
organized by a woman, let him marry you and bring you in, if not let him
continue to eat out and do his laundry by himself. Respect yourself and you will get the respect
you deserve from him.
Sleeping With Him
This one
has become a norm and way of life in our society. We cannot “because sugar is sweet say
it is good”, you may call me old fashioned, I don’t care. Sleeping with a man who is not your husband
is a sin against God and it is called FORNICATION
and this type of sin hinders prayers.
You have
been praying to God to give you a husband and you are busy sleeping around with
men. Do you think your prayer will be
answered? It will only take the grace of
God for a man to marry a woman whom he has seen it all.
Public Display of Affection
Holding
hands, kissing, romancing and displaying pictures of a man who is not yet your
husband in public is not good for you.
Why I am saying this is firstly, as you paint the town red with this
man, other men who would have been interested in you will be disappointed and
loose interest thinking you are already engaged.
Secondly,
if eventually the marriage did not work out, how will you convince these people
who had seen you do these things that you are good enough for them?
So be
careful!
If you
want to marry a God’s chosen husband and at the right time, try as much as
possible to be free from the above entanglements, Work hard to bring yourself
to an enviable level and get closer to God.
Leave God to do the rest for you.
Also read other reasons why some relationships don't end in marriage
Also read other reasons why some relationships don't end in marriage